Wednesday, February 14, 2018


As a society, we put a lot of focus on this one day and its relationship with love. It becomes a question, "Who am I when it comes to love?" There is more to this day than the gifts and expectations. On this day above all others, we are expected to have a valentine and give that person a gift that makes him or her feel special.

I have a question. "When did love come with accessories?"

In our every day life, we exist and coexist around relationships, and, at this time of year, we can become obsessed with romantic relationships. Personally, I am not in a romantic relationship, yet every year I fantasize that I will find that one special person with whom I will share my heart, mind, body and soul. All that being said, I found him this year. I realized over the past month that I have withheld some or all of those things from myself. So I am falling in love with myself.

You're saying, "WWHHAATT?!?" 

There are a fair number of people who don't put themselves in the situation where they MAY fall in love. What I discovered is that, 'Love is the one game you will always lose if you don't play at all.' I've been in love, down to the soul, love. When I lost my love, I unknowingly shut down my ability to love. The symptoms weren't obvious to others, but they were playing on loud speaker in my head. I ignored when I stopped getting emotional at movies (I usually cried at every emotional ending). I found reasons not to date and then complained loudly about being alone. And, most importantly, I compared everyone I dated to my past love (no one is as perfect as someone who has passed).
Over time, I slowly shifted my love from a romantic love to a very generous, nurturing love. I was great in crowds, yet I was lonely when alone and, sometimes, even in a crowd. Spiritually, I ignored that my root chakra was closed and obstructed. Who I am got lost in 'who I was.' Happiness eluded me and I let it.
I had to stop talking and start listening. When living intuitively, it is important to create a routine for your internal health. Of course, eating right is important, but it is crucial that you get rid of the emotional baggage that impacts the weakest parts of your body and mind.
To generate Intuitive Living, I suggest you examine your level of self-love, self-respect and self-image. When you don't truly love yourself, how can you love another, and how can that person truly love you. If your self-love is conditional, the love of another will be the same. If you see yourself as 'less-than,' so will others. You are the one who tells everyone who you are and how to treat you. To find a lasting love, you have to confront the person staring back at you in the mirror. 
  • Who is the person in the mirror?
    Describe the person
  • Are you in love with that person?
    Search your heart and soul, keep your mind out of this!
  • Is that person enough for you?
    What is enough?
  • What do you expect from this person?
  • What difference does that person make to you, to others, to the community and globally?
  • If you brought the person in the mirror home to meet your friends and family, what would they say?
    How would they describe the person?

Love in any relationship begins with the one you have with yourself. Go inside and explore you. Get to know yourself. Every new beginning starts with you. Every success begins with you. Every change begins with you.
The key to unconditional love is that it begins with you. Love comes from the inside out. No one gives you love, they just open it up inside of you and vice versa. Embrace your love. 
Acknowledge your self-respect.  Just like love, until you respect yourself for all your parts, how can anyone?  Respect must exist before love can make a home. 
Accept your self-image.  Until you accept yourself as a physical being, just as you are, you will always be judging. You will not only judge yourself, but those around you. Additionally, you can't make any change until you accept things as they are. 
I've said all of this to say, Enjoy the Magic of Valentine's Day. This one day gives you the opportunity to be someone you can really love. 

Wednesday, February 7, 2018


Living Intuitively is accepting resistance for what it is and moving past the resistance to an action. It is a natural way of living. Trusting your spirit brings you confidence and power needed to push through the biggest obstacle.
The #1 rule: You are enough. You are all you need to be to live intuitively. Granted, you don't live in a vacuum. Others have input in your life. Sometimes it is positive, while, at other times, it may be negative. Another person's actions simply provide you with a series of options from which you may choose. How you react creates three outcomes:
  • How you are perceived by others and yourself
  • The choices available to you
  • Your future 
However, you have more control over your environment than you think. Let's look at the three outcomes individually.
  • You - In any moment, you have the power to choose who you are going to be in any situation. You are constantly creating and re-creating who you are. Your personal power comes from the choices you make while creating yourself.
    A trick to stay true...look to your future!
  • Powerful Choices - A choice is a reflection of who you are now and who you choose to be in the future. Every choice slightly alters your path. 
    Imagine driving your car down Main Street. When you reach the stop light you may choose left onto Elm (a long winding road), right on Maple (a road filled with neighborhoods and schools) or straight ahead on Main (the most accident prone road in town). This choice may seem trivial, but that choice invites you to experience different scenarios, people with whom you may interact, or a detour that will take you on a unfamiliar road with an unknown outcome.
    Depending on the road you choose, you may encounter a dead end, multiple stop signs, or a clear path home. How you deal with your choice re-enforces who you are.
    So ask yourself, is your powerful choice the journey or the destination?
  • A New Future - Your future alters everytime you choose a path. You choose your future at each and every moment. But how do you know you've reached the future you planned or that the future you planned is the future you want.
    What you can count on is that if you let life choose you, your future will be decided by every other person in your life. 
    To be proactive in creating a new future, you create your future by putting down on paper. Sure you can type it into your electronic device, but putting in down on paper has you be fully engaged in the design.
    Start with your life one year from today. What does your life look like in 2019? Keep it focused as if you were talking about today!
    Who is your partner? For which company are you working, or are you self employed? Did you travel in 2018? If so, to where and with whom? How much do you make? Go through all of the details that are important to your success and fulfillment.
    After you have created the results of the upcoming year, move backward one month and detail the actions you took to have those successes. Go back one month and detail the actions that had you be successful. When you get back to today, you now have a map for success.
You have more control over your life that you think. You get to say what happens because you are in control of your choices. If you need or want to create a life filled with love, joy and abundance, schedule a coaching session to design your future.

Blessings & Joy!